Cute Video

Just had to share it….

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My Life – How You Can Help Me

Recently, I was let go at my job.  I won’t go into the specifics because that is not safe.  Suffice it to say, this time it was not over me being LG. I was, however, asked about the specifics of that at an even more recent “discussion”, which was uncomfortable.  I’m resigned that I am an enigma anyway … not enough like the TG population to “throw in” with them (it’s not a “lifestyle” for me, not really), and not enough different to explain what the differences are to someone who is ignorant to the nuances.

At any rate, I had to move so as not to become homeless and now must find a new job, which isn’t exactly easy in my field. Until that time, I have no income.  I am living off a limited account, and having bills come in that can’t be simply pushed back.  So, if you can help, I surely would appreciate it.  And you don’t have to do it by a large amount or without getting anything back.

As many know, I am a writer, and a lot of the writing I do is AB or LG themed. I also have done quite a good many sketches … they are amateur, but cute.  I have done custom stories for folks before, so I am open for commissions, but mostly I would just like you to subscribe to my Patreon page. It’s not a lot – most stuff you can get just for a $2 subscription. It sure would be helpful for me if you’d consider it.

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In Their Words: How Children Are Affected by Gender Issues

They’re only 9 years old, but these kids from around the world offer keen insight into how gender shapes destiny.

Source: In Their Words: How Children Are Affected by Gender Issues

 

National Geographic started a firestorm last month by announcing their January 2017 issue would feature Gender issues, and feature a 9-year-old transgender (male-to-female) on the cover.  In the link above is the main online article, and here is the link to their explanation for putting a transgender child on the cover:
http://www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/2017/01/editors-note-gender/

I don’t know how things would have turned out had I grown up in a world that is more open to gender spectrum.  When I grew up, all the model we had were Boy George and some book about a man that went into the hospital for a surgery and they got him mixed up with another patient and gave him a sex change.  I remember finding the book on a shelf in a store and reading it out of sheer curiosity when I was less than 10 years old. At the time, I didn’t even know such things could be done.

I recall at the age of 10, playing with my fantasies a bit to where I could become a girl, and what boys at my school I might be interested in, but I never could see myself being interested in boys at all. The lines between sexual orientation and transgender were definitely blurred for me; I didn’t realize until much later that I could have feminine feelings AND be sexually attracted to females at the same time.  The understanding that there were lots of couples comprised of same sex partners was completely foreign to me at that age as well. Perhaps I was naive, but I didn’t know what homosexuality was until I was in Jr. High School.

In my late teen years, my hormones were in full swing and all directed toward the “adult baby” world. Once in awhile, “sissy” ideas would enter that world, and I would consider it, but it didn’t.  At the same time, being a baby boy didn’t really fit either.  I was also experiencing severe bouts of guilt at the time, and would frequently fall into the binge/purge cycle – buying a bunch of paraphernalia, then becoming guilty and throwing it all out and vowing never to do it again, the desire arising very shortly thereafter and starting the cycle over again.  At some point in my late 20s I learned to accept myself, perceived that God was not concerned about what kind of underwear (or diapers) I was wearing, and beat that cycle for good.

It was also in my 20s that I finally stumbled across “adult little girls”. I’ve explained in past blog posts how I came to learn, so I won’t go into all that again, except to say that it helped everything fall into place – finally – and led to me being able to say I am well-adjusted and comfortable with myself at this point.

But all that leads me back to wondering. The child in question is 9. Had I been introduced to such ideas at 9, would I have been able to handle it?  Would it have led to me being better adjusted at a young age, or worsened things? Every teenager experiences questions as to who they are – is it really fair to heap this on them? I never physically transitioned and would not want to, even if I could go back, but had I learned of this then, would I have thought that was naturally what one was supposed to do?  I believe I would have.

Some who do this as kids definitely seem better adjusted.  I have even featured a few in this blog. Far more, however, end in tragedy. It is hard to conclude why that came about – some suggest it is the bullying; others suggest it is because transitioning was not the conclusion for which they hoped, and when it failed to deliver, they saw no further option.

Some say it should not be permitted for kids to do this until they are old enough to understand and choose for themselves.  In some cases I think this insults the person who has been dealing with these issues through their childhood, and in addition I can see the benefit of starting early if one is going to transition – that way the physical changes the body goes through in adolescence can be modified.  In other cases, however, it may be quite true that the youth really doesn’t understand himself/herself enough to make such a life-altering decision. It is difficult to decide on such issues.

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Just a little distraction….

 

Way too sweet not to share.  The little girl is imagining that she is walking a plank over the water filled with sharks.  It’s very much like the little imagining games I remember playing as a child.

Nothing earth shattering here.  Just a short and sweet distraction.

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Boy Scouts on transgender youths: We defer to birth certificates [Video]

The Boy Scouts of America once again landed under the harsh glare of the media spotlight for their policies on LGBT children. Recently, a woman from New Jersey has been speaking to local media about how her transgender son was removed from his local Boy Scout troop because of his gender identity. Kristie

Source: Boy Scouts on transgender youths: We defer to birth certificates [Video]

 

 

 

Not sure how I feel on this one.  There are a lot of things like overnight camping trips in organizations like Boy Scouts.  While in younger ages this might be okay, it seems shortsighted and poor judgment to suggest that no boy would be tempted by this in teen years.  At Summer Camps, we do not sleep boys and girls together in the same cabins. There’s a reason for that, and it is not that we are “old-fashioned”.  It is simply that we understand sexual curiosity blossoms at this age. No matter how pure and innocent you think Little Johnny is, put him in a bunk with a teen girl – even one who feels like a boy – and curiosity will reign supreme at some point.  To insist it won’t is burying your head in the sand.

The article keeps going on about how the kids don’t have a problem with it, it is the parents that do.  Well, kids HAVE parents because kids don’t always make the best decisions – they need to be taught how to do that. I know kids who would eat cookies for supper every night if they made the decisions.

I know this girl FEELS like a boy.  But she biologically is not a boy. And the other boys – even if they do not so much know it now – will in the near future.

Yes, I believe in Transgender rights.  I believe you should be able to dress, present, and express yourself as you wish. But I am also a “Common Sense Transgender”. I know that just because I FEEL like a girl, that does not MAKE me one, and then entitle me to partake in every thing that is designed for true biological girls.  Even if you are an extreme liberal on this issue and think that those who feel they are female should be given all the same privileges as those who biologically are female, let me ask you this.  I feel like a six year old girl.  How many of you want me going to Kindergarten, and going to the restroom in the cubicle next to your little girl?  No?  Didn’t think so. (For the record, it is a shame I have to say this, but to be safe – NO, I don’t want to! I’m using the example to make a point that feeling like one is something does not entitle one to receive the benefits of BEING what they feel like they are.

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Twelve Days, Day 4

I’m having a happy Little Girl Christmas this year.
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My Aunty Dixie and cousin Lori-Sue got me this stocking and put my name on it!  It is Frozen-inspired …. which I LOVE … and a lot of the gifts were, too!  I got a new hairband, and a lighted hairbraid, a Santa hat, Frozen “Frosted Berries” shampoo, and some candy … Reese’s trees …..mmmmmm.

They made one for my Mommy who was visiting, too. I was so happy.  🙂

Mommy got me a present as well, with lots of Frozen stuff. I love that movie … Anna is my favorite.

We went to see the Christmas lights at the zoo in Columbia. More on that later, though. We went on the Friday Mommy was here to dinner in Charleston, which allowed me to experience some Charleston Christmas.  In both cases I was dressed in a favorite Christmas dress, helped by Mommy. I still have my dream though to one day go Christmas Shopping in my favorite dresses in New York City.

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Twelve Days, Day 3

Now, before some crazed Lolita goes off on me, yes, I know Lolita and LG (Little Girl, or ALG Adult Little Girl) are not the same thing. But there are similarities, and no doubt that the LG world adores the fashion of the Lolita world.

Over time, the Lolita world has blossomed into many different styles – angelic pretty, gothic, country, kawaii, and so on. Today, in a completely unrelated place (right in the middle of my groan-up man Facebook newsfeed), I stumbled across a new caveat which I never encountered before.

Behold: Muslim Lolita!
CLICK HERE for Muslim Lolita!

These girls have shown that they have a fashion sense of their own, while still adhering to their religious standards!  That’s great!

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I could pull this off!

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Love the black and pink!

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12 Days, Day 2

Ok, I am a little late, but it is still Wednesday on the West Coast!!

Today I share my favorite clip from the movie, “Miracle on 34th Street” (1994 Version).  It’s actually my second favorite scene, but I can’t find a clip just of my favorite scene. My favorite would be the scene just before the ruling in the Court, where Susan (played by Mara Wilson) approaches the bench, and says this to the judge:

“Would it please the court if i gave you your Christmas card? I probably won’t see you again unless I get arrested, which is very unlikely, since it’s Christmas eve and I’m going to bed uncharacteristically early.”

Judge: “Thank you very much, young lady.”

“You’re entirely welcome.”

This, then, is my second favorite scene, where Santa signs for a deaf girl.  They say Richard Attenborough learned sign language just for this part.

You might want to turn up the volume a bit. No pun intended here, but this clip has a low volume to it. The part of the girl is played by Bianca Rose Pucci, about whom there seems to be almost no information. This is the only movie with which she is credited. There is no bio listed, and no pictures. There is an attorney in Chicago by this name, but I don’t know if it is the same person.

Why do I love this movie so much?  Well, it isn’t the fact that there is a little girl as a main character and she has dresses I would SO love to have copies of …… okay, maybe that is it a little. But the movie dives pretty deep into the making of a person’s identity. Some would say that Kita Sparkles does not exist – that she’s just a part played by a middle-aged man that they believe has “emotional problems”. But I am more than that.  I DO exist. And while it is not in a body that I so much prefer, it is my spirit that makes all the difference. That spirit is fully integrated with the male, 40+ year old side … I am not a multiple personality or identity. I am Kita, and I am real.

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The Twelve Days Of Christmas!

I have decided to write more, so, I am going to post every day in the 12 days leading up to Christmas.  Yes, I KNOW the actual 12 days of Christmas start with December 25 and proceed through the beginning of January.  Shut up. I’m six, I don’t have to be logical all the time.

Today, I wish to share my most favorite Christmas music video.  Please enjoy “Christmas Eve/ Sarajevo [Timeless Version]”

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I’m back! And with a great link!

I am so sorry I have been gone so long.  Things got busy.

I have a whole basketload of things saved up I have been wanting to post. I am going to start with Corey Maison.  She is a 14 year old transgender teenager who has lived through the bullying that many of us dealt with, and come out now with a wonderful new life and outlook. See her story here:  https://gma.yahoo.com/were-not-threat-transgender-teen-shares-powerful-message-183444947–abc-news-lifestyle.html?cid=abcn_fb

And the music video she inspired, “Misfit”, with her story in cards, done by her:

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